They say you are only dealt what you can handle….
Sometimes that statement is hard to believe….
Life is full of challenges. Life is full of learning. Life is full of mistakes. Life is full of heartbreak.
Sometimes it’s hard to see the good in things. Things can feel so difficult, you simply will not make it through, the dark may consume you and the light will not prevail. We’ve all had those hands dealt, even from the time we were wee babes. The first time we were separated from our mother. The first bully in school. The first friend to hurt our feelings. The first boy/girl to break our heart. The loss of a loved one. Parents divorcing… and so on and so forth.
So, for our entire lives we are taught that pain and suffering is part of life. For our entire lives we are taught that we MUST be strong, we MUST claw through the dark to see the light. “Pretend it doesn’t bother you,” “Don’t let it get you down,” “Think of all the good things,” “Don’t let them get the satisfaction of seeing you down”. While this may be true, there is a completely opposite side of the story that I often explore.
When the day gets me down, I often word vomit. I word vomit all over. I spew out the negativity and make room for some positivity. It may seem like this is a bad idea… because that is what we are taught, “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all,”. Well, let me tell you I will be a forced to be reckoned with if I keep all that negativity inside. What I mean by this is that we should understand we are ALLOWED to feel angry, frustrated, sad, irritated. We are ALLOWED TO FEEL whatever we want. Yes, it would be nice to be strong and have a handle on any given situation that arrises, but the reality is that sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we simply cannot — and that is okay.
It is okay to need help. It is okay to need support. It is okay to be emotional. It is okay to let out your frustrations. It is okay to talk about it. And most of all, it is okay to feel better afterwards.
You do not need to hold everything in. You do not need to be afraid of word vomit.
Keeping things in isn’t always the answer. Sometimes that can do far worse things. Cry it out if you have to. Let it out until it stops — but that is the important part. It does have to stop. The key is to not get wrapped up in the negative. There is a difference between letting out the negativity and dwelling in it.
DON’T BE A DWELLER!
Word vomit that shit out and make room for the good stuff — because lets not forget… There is a lot to be thankful for in this life too.
Happy Hump Day Friends!